Supporting Siblings of Teens Struggling with Addiction

Oct 23

When a teenager is battling addiction, the focus naturally turns to their recovery. Parents, caregivers, and professionals rally around the teen in crisis. But in the shadows, brothers and sisters are often left to process confusion, fear, anger, or grief with little acknowledgment.

Siblings are sometimes called the “forgotten family members” in addiction care. Yet research shows that substance use disorders in one child profoundly affect the emotional, social, and even physical well-being of siblings. By understanding their unique challenges and offering intentional support, families can help siblings heal—and prevent future struggles.

The Hidden Impact on Siblings

Emotional Strain

Siblings often experience a range of difficult emotions:

Fear and anxiety about their brother or sister’s safety
Guilt for not being able to help, or for resenting the attention their sibling receives
Anger at broken trust, family chaos, or changes in relationships
Loneliness as parents become consumed by crisis management

Studies have found that siblings of individuals with substance use disorders are at higher risk of mental health problems, including anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

Family Dynamics & Role Shifts

When one child requires intensive attention, siblings may feel neglected. Some step into a “parental” role to compensate, while others withdraw. Both dynamics can create long-lasting strain.

According to the National Association for Children of Addiction, siblings are more likely to assume roles such as the “hero” (overachieving to restore family pride) or the “lost child” (becoming invisible to reduce stress).

Increased Risk for Substance Use

Sadly, siblings are also at greater risk of experimenting with substances themselves. A teen may use drugs or alcohol to cope with stress or to seek attention. Research shows that siblings of individuals with substance use disorders have elevated risk for later substance misuse.

How to Support Siblings of Teens in Addiction

1. Acknowledge Their Experience

Validation is powerful. Let siblings know their feelings are real and important:

Say, “I know this has been hard for you, too.”
Encourage them to share their perspective in family therapy or support groups.
Remind them they are not forgotten in the recovery process.

2. Create Safe Spaces for Expression

Siblings need outlets where they can talk freely—without fear of burdening parents. Options include:

Individual counseling to explore emotions privately
Sibling support groups where they can connect with peers in similar situations
Creative expression (art, journaling, music) as a safe release

3. Provide Age-Appropriate Information

Many siblings struggle with confusion about addiction. Providing developmentally appropriate education can reduce fear and guilt.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) notes that siblings benefit from clear, simple explanations about addiction as a disease—not a moral failing.

4. Ensure Quality Time & Attention

Even short, intentional one-on-one time helps siblings feel valued:

Weekly parent-child “check-ins”
Shared activities like sports, walks, or cooking
Celebrating siblings’ milestones, separate from addiction-related conversations

5. Encourage Healthy Boundaries

Siblings need to understand it’s not their job to fix or monitor their brother or sister. Boundaries protect emotional health:

Teach them phrases like, “I care about you, but I can’t control your choices.”
Model that parents—and professionals—are responsible for managing treatment.

6. Involve Siblings in Family Recovery—But Don’t Overburden Them

When appropriate, include siblings in family therapy or education sessions. This helps them feel part of the healing process, while making sure the focus doesn’t fall on them to “solve” the situation.

7. Connect to Resources

Practical resources matter. Point siblings toward:

Alateen (for teens affected by a family member’s drinking)
National Alliance for Children’s Grief for emotional processing
School counselors or trusted teachers for day-to-day support
Faith or community mentors if aligned with the family’s values

What Siblings Often Need to Hear

“You didn’t cause this.”
“It’s not your job to fix it.”
“Your feelings are important.”
“You deserve joy and attention too.”

These simple affirmations counter the silent messages siblings often internalize in families affected by addiction.

Long-Term Benefits of Supporting Siblings

When siblings receive emotional support, they are more likely to:

Develop resilience and healthy coping strategies
Avoid turning to substances themselves
Maintain stronger family bonds into adulthood
Carry forward empathy, compassion, and advocacy skills

By supporting siblings now, families are investing in the well-being of all their children—not just the one struggling with addiction.

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